Tonto Dikeh urges Christian men to replace 'God told me' with genuine effort in pursuing women
Tonto Dikeh advised Christian men against using spirituality as substitute for genuine effort when pursuing women for marriage. In an Instagram video, she criticized the 'low-effort' approach where men say 'God told me you are my wife' instead of investing time and effort in building healthy relationships, calling this emotional laziness a distortion of God's character.
She supported her argument with biblical examples, insisting Scripture encourages deliberate courtship rather than passive reliance on prophecy. Referring to Proverbs 18:22, she stated finding a wife requires active, intentional effort. She cited Genesis 24, noting Abraham's servant arrived with valuable gifts while seeking a wife for Isaac, and the Boaz-Ruth story where love was demonstrated through protection, provision and responsibility rather than spiritual claims.
The actress concluded by urging men to abandon relationship shortcuts: 'Step up. Plan that date. Don't keep saying, 'God said,' because God speaks to women too.' This advice comes amid her increased evangelical work, including an upcoming ministry outing in Rwanda on July 5 at Bethesda Holy Gisozi, Gakinjiro, Kigali where she will join Nigerian gospel singer Ebuka Songs for a prayer and worship programme.
Will you demonstrate genuine interest through thoughtful actions like planning dates, giving gifts, and showing consistent care in your pursuit, rather than relying solely on spiritual declarations?